“I’m all for breastfeeding, but only if…”
No, stop right there.
If you find yourself telling a breastfeeding mother that you believe in breastfeeding, but ONLY:
- If she covers up
- If she does it away from everyone
- If she is sitting on a public toilet hiding away
- If she stops when the baby has teeth
- If she stops when the baby reaches x weeks/months/ years old
… then I shouldn’t have to say that you are NOT actually for breastfeeding.
The only thing worse than someone that is against the most natural thing on the planet… the thing God designed our bodies to do– feed our babies– is someone that acts like they’re okay with breastfeeding (or worse, tells everyone they support it), but has all kinds of stipulations and fine print associated with their statements.
I’m in complete awe over the lack of education and support in America in 2018. I really thought we would’ve gotten it together by now. I’ve had blankets thrown over my baby’s head while he’s eating, all because someone else has felt uncomfortable. What’s the shame in him eating? If I had a bottle of formula in my hand, would you still throw a hot, heavy blanket over him on a sunny day, putting him in the dark and away from fresh air and seeing his mom’s face, all because you feel what we are doing is obscene and pornographic? What if I told you this was a woman that did this wholeheartedly believes she was supporting me and insists that she believes breastfeeding is great? This was after asking if I would rather sit on a public toilet and lock the stall door because everyone else was eating and I was “making a scene”.
Would you like to eat your lunch in a public bathroom or with a blanket over your head? I didn’t think so.
To all mothers and caregivers: do not be hesitant to feed your baby. Breast or bottle, in public or private, feed and comfort your baby. You do not need to cover up or hide away, unless YOU want to. Don’t let someone that “feels uncomfortable” stop you from giving your little one exactly what you know they need.
Mamas, please feed your babies WHATEVER you want, HOWEVER you want, WHENEVER you want, and WHEREVER you want, for AS LONG AS YOU WANT. You know what is best for your child.
The law is on your side, and no one can make you stop because they feel uncomfortable. Let’s be brave, encourage each other, and educate those around us of the many wonderful benefits of nursing our babies to normalize the beautiful art that is breastfeeding.
These (unedited) photos were taken by my supportive husband on our first vacation as a family of three, when Ben was 6 months old. We had just hiked the steepest mountain I’d ever been on, and the view from the top was breathtaking. It was incredibly hot and Ben was getting hungry, so I decided to skip the cover, even though there were people all around. The confidence I felt after a difficult hike and giving my son the healthiest, most natural food for him, with a view like that, was invigorating. When a woman nearby saw us and smiled, telling me what I was doing was beautiful, I felt so proud. Someone could’ve easily ruined that memory for me right then and there, but thanks to her encouraging words, I’ll never forget that moment.
The happiest baby is a FED baby! 🙂